Helping Someone Who Feels Tired, Drained, and Unmotivated

Hello my friends. Chances are, if you’re reading this, you care about someone feeling tired, drained, and unmotivated. It’s wonderful that you want to help. Supporting someone through tough times can make a big difference in their life. Let’s chat about how you can be that beacon of support without overwhelming yourself.

Step 1: Listen with Empathy

The first step to helping someone is simply to listen. Often, people just need to feel heard and understood. Create a safe space for them to express their feelings without judgment. Let them talk and practice active listening. Nod, maintain eye contact, and use affirming responses like “I understand” or “That sounds really tough.”

Step 2: Validate Their Feelings

Acknowledge that it’s okay for them to feel tired, drained, and unmotivated. Avoid minimizing their feelings or offering quick fixes. Instead, let them know it’s normal to feel this way and that their feelings are valid. Sometimes, hearing “It’s okay to feel this way” can be incredibly comforting.

Step 3: Offer Practical Help

Ask how you can help. Sometimes, small gestures can make a big difference. Offer to help with tasks they might find overwhelming, like running errands, cooking a meal, or just sitting with them. Be specific in your offers to help, as it can be easier for them to accept: “Can I bring you dinner tonight?” or “Would it help if I took care of that for you?”

Step 4: Encourage Small Steps

Motivation often comes in small doses. Encourage them to take small steps towards feeling better. Suggest manageable and enjoyable activities, like going for a short walk, trying a hobby they love, or even just stepping outside for some fresh air. Offer to join them in these activities if it feels appropriate.

Step 5: Be Patient

Recovery from feeling drained and unmotivated doesn’t happen overnight. Be patient with your loved ones and understand they might have good or bad days. Avoid pushing them to “snap out of it” or expecting immediate improvement. Your consistent support can be a steady anchor for them.

Step 6: Share Resources

Gently share resources that might help. This could be articles, books, or videos on self-care and motivation. You could also suggest professional help, such as therapy or counseling, if appropriate. Present these resources as options, not mandates: “I read this article and thought it might help. No pressure, but I can share it if you’re interested.”

Step 7: Practice Self-Care

Supporting someone else can be emotionally taxing, so taking care of yourself is important, too. Ensure you’re also getting enough rest, eating well, and doing things that bring you joy. Setting boundaries is crucial to prevent burnout. Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup.

Step 8: Stay Connected

Keep in touch with your loved one. Regular check-ins, whether through a call, text, or visit, can provide ongoing support and show them that they’re not alone. Knowing someone cares and is thinking about them can make a difference.  Sometimes I can have a hard time staying connected. Mainly due to all the things happening in my life on a day-to-day basis.  There are multiple ways to stay connected, find what works for you while helping your friend or loved one.

Step 9: Celebrate Progress

Acknowledge and celebrate any progress, no matter how small. If they managed to get out of bed and shower, that’s a win. If they went for a walk or attended a social event, that’s another win. Positive reinforcement can help them feel more motivated and appreciated.

Final Thoughts

Being there for someone who feels tired, drained, and unmotivated is a powerful act of kindness. Your support can give them the strength and encouragement they need to navigate tough times. Listen empathetically, validate their feelings, offer practical help, and encourage small steps. Remember to take care of yourself along the way.

You’re doing something incredible by being there for someone in need. Keep it up and know that your compassion and support truly matter.

For me, I also find when helping others, it ultimately helps me too.  What is your experience in helping others when they are in a low place?

Be happy, healthy and safe!